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Posted by: EMC   |   11/16/2012   |  

Penelope Janes Birth Story

Penelope Jane's Birth Story


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Status Quo for a Third Trimester Summer Day:Thursday morning [July 26] marked 37 weeks of my pregnancy. I woke up feeling a little “off” with a scratchy throat and a headache. I had been having pretty uncomfortable Braxton Hicks cramps on and off throughout the night, so was also very tired. I decided to stay home that day, didn’t even get dressed.
Friday morning [July 27] was about the same as the day before, but the Braxton Hicks (BH) were slightly more frequent and were pretty intense. I was nauseous too. I thought I was coming down with something. I thought I might have a stomach bug. But I also thought “this could just be normal, I mean I AM 37 weeks pregnant and it IS really hot outside…”
I was also very emotional. I took a bath in the afternoon and burst into tears when I realized that my giant pregnant body could not fully submerge in our tiny (read: normal-sized) bathtub. The water offered me no relief from my stomach cramps, which at this point in time were coming randomly probably about every 10-40 minutes. I called Dan from the bathtub to tell him all about it but could barely get words out. Then I spent about twenty minutes just petting our dogs, who stayed by my side all day long sensing that something was wrong.
It was a very rough day, but never once did I think that I could be in labor.
Opening Ceremonies:Dan got home from work around 4:30pm, and just having him home with me made me feel a million times better. We had been looking forward to going to our neighbor’s house to watch the 2012 Summer Olympics Opening Ceremonies. We decided that a change of scenery would be good for me and headed on over there around 5:30pm.
I settled in to a comfortable corner of the neighbor’s big red couch. Whenever I would have a cramp, I would just close my eyes and practice the mental relaxation and breathing we learned in our Bradley Method classes. Dan sat next to me and held me and stroked my arms and employed a very quiet, discreet version of the coaching methods he learned in our Bradley classes to get me through the “cramps”.
About when Bradley Wiggins rang the bell in Olympic Stadium, I whispered to Dan “You know, my cramps are coming a lot more frequently than they were earlier today, maybe you should use that Labor App to start timing them, JUST IN CASE they are actually contractions.” He reluctantly obliged.
They were averaging about 7 to 8 minutes apart but were not entirely regular. In between them, I enjoyed chatting with our family and watching the Opening Ceremonies. Little did I know my cervix was having an opening ceremony of its own (haha a little birth humor…)
Over the next four hours, I labored and Daniel timed my contractions on his iPhone. I was starting to think that maybe I was in labor, but this seemed so unlikely. I had read stories about women going into “false labor” multiple times before being in real labor, so I figured this was a really intense case of false labor. We walked home around 10pm, when my “cramps” were about 5 to 5 ½ minutes apart. Then we went straight to bed.
Delirium:I couldn’t sleep.
My mind wasn’t racing, I wasn’t excited, I was simply committed to getting some rest. But my contractions were incessantly waking me up every five minutes. I couldn’t function… half exhaustion, half pain, half confusion, half frustration. Or something like that.
At midnight, I asked Daniel to get out of bed and walk around the entire house with me. We walked in circles around the kitchen, then downstairs and all through our basement. Our dogs, Luna and Apollo, were so confused. Contractions didn’t go away. Now I was more and more convinced that this was it. I ate half a banana and a yogurt, and we went back to bed.At 2:00am, Daniel suggested that I take a shower to see if it made me feel better, and to afford him a solid block of sleep (if I really was in labor, he was going to need some rest on the front end to be able to make it for the long haul). The shower helped lessen the intensity of the contractions but did not reduce their frequency. I counted 14 contractions during my 45 minute shower. Dan got a solid hour of sleep.
I got back in bed between 3am and 4am, dozed off some, and timed some more contractions. For the most part, we still thought this was false labor because I was so early. We weren’t ready. We still had three weeks. Every single person in our families had been born on-time or late. I had no medical indication of being at risk for anything that was to come.
Fire Drill:At about 4:30am we decided that since my contractions were 3-4 minutes apart, I should probably go on in to the hospital to get checked. We turned on the light in our room, threw random last minute things into our respective “Go” bags, filled up the dogs’ water, putzed around with some other things, and were ready to depart.
I will never forget saying goodbye to Luna and Apollo at 4:41am. I caught a fleeting glimpse of the real possibility that next time we saw them, there was a teensie weensie chance we would have a baby with us, and life as they knew it would be over. But that quickly went away as we got in the car to head to the hospital.Most bi-polar car ride of my life.
The three contractions I had during those 9 minutes were the WORST. But still, in between contractions, I was doing totally great… mentally sound, cracking jokes, like “dude, what if we have a baby today? Wouldn’t that be crazy?”
Daniel called my doctor and quickly filled him in on the pattern of my contractions and our arrival at the hospital, said that there was a chance we’d need him in a few hours. Doc affirmed our decision and said he would wait to hear if I was in active labor. The process to check in at the ER was painless and quick and before I knew it, I was in a wheelchair being pushed by a nurse to the third floor for OB triage. Dan walked next to us carrying two big duffle bags and a diaper bag. Super Husband. This was all just a fire drill to us. We knew we were doing the right thing going by-the-books and coming in to the hospital, but we were thinking they would check me, send me home and we’d have a baby in three weeks.
Dose of Reality:The exam that revealed that I was 4 centimeters dilated and 80% effaced was the most physically painful moment of my pregnancy and labor so far. But a real scare came after that when they put the fetal heart rate monitor on my belly. Baby’s heart rate was great… until I had a contraction and it plummeted to 60 bpm (which means not enough oxygen to the brain). The nurse, alarmed, told me I needed to roll onto my other side, maybe there was something going on with the umbilical cord, baby “wasn’t happy” in that position.
Next contraction… same thing. Dan and I didn’t immediately appreciate the severity of the low heart rate, so when the nurse told me I needed an IV with fluids and to be hooked up to oxygen, we were like, ‘nahhhhh if hydration is the issue, I’ll just drink a bunch of water thank you very much’. The next thing I remember was the nurse telling me that my doctor was on his way in and that they were going to go ahead and admit me to the hospital. I told Daniel, “I guess we are going to have a baby today.”
“I guess so!”
All My Nightmares at Once:I don’t remember many of the details of the next twenty minutes of my labor, but I do know that my doctor arrived at the hospital in what seemed like 2 minutes.
Contractions were stronger. Beeping noises. Oxygen mask on my face. Stuff wrapped around my belly. Another vaginal exam. “Yep, just four centimeters.” Contraction. Four hustling nurses. Tight blood pressure cuff. Dan holding my hand. Contraction. I was in a scene in an Aronofsky film. Bright lights. They were waiting to see if baby’s heart rate was getting any better, but with every contraction, it plunged into a range that no one in the room was comfortable with. Contraction. Reassuring smiling faces masking concern and information they didn’t want to burden me with yet. Contraction. Blood pressure cuff. Contraction. Dan stroking my head. Contraction.
Then it came down to this. “Julie, I need to do an emergency C section. Baby needs to come out now.”
New Birth Plan:My whole pregnancy we were planning for an intervention-free birth… but we also were prepared for anything else that might come our way. This was the latter. If our baby was under this much distress when I was having contractions at only 4 cm, there was a huge likelihood she wouldn’t make it through the rest of labor, let alone a vaginal delivery.
“…Baby needs to come out now” was followed by words words words I can’t remember. Between tears and contractions I just told doc “I trust you” and asked him to pray over me. Before my husband and I had to separate for a little while, I told him to call our moms and his sister and tell them to come, and to call his cousin to ask him to commence the dog-sitting activities. No one even knew I was in labor.
Then, not one hour from when we had arrived at the hospital, I was on my way to the operating room.
This Can’t Be Real Life:That surgery was the worst experience of my life. Words cannot describe the physical discomfort of being awake while your organs are being jostled around by people in a hurry, all while fearing that your baby has brain damage… or worse.
I had to go deeper into a place of mental toughness and trusting God than I ever thought possible. I feel like I had to employ the same level of mental relaxation and pain management tools during my C section as I would have if I had gone through Transition and Phase 2 of a natural birth like I had planned.
I remember hearing her cry. That was at 6:31am.
I remember being able to discern from the chatter in the room that she was turning pink quickly, and feeling relieved. I think they brought her around the curtain and showed her to me before going to clean her up but I was so out of it that I don’t really remember what she looked like. I know Daniel was right there by my face holding my hand telling me how great I was doing. At one point I guess I told him to ‘stop talking!’ and those in the room thought it was funny, but I don’t recall saying that.
I wasn’t sure if she was a girl, I feel like I kept desperately asking “Is it a girl? Is it a girl?” repeatedly but no one answered me. Daniel insists that he kept answering me “Yes, it’s a girl!” but I must not have heard him.
Our little girl scored a 9 on her first Apgar and weighed in at a tiny 5 pounds 7 ounces. Not quite early enough to be considered a “preemie” but certainly small enough and fragile enough. I had to stay on the operating table for what felt like an eternity to be closed up, but Daniel was able to go with her to bathe and wave at the grandparents and auntie from the other side of the wall.
We named her Penelope Jane.
Road to Recovery:In the post-op room, I had a very nice nurse who talked me through my disorientation and calmed the frenzy in my heart as she tended to my medical needs. Coming off the epidural, my toes were starting to wake up but I still couldn’t feel anything above my knees. I couldn’t wait to hold my little miracle. I still wasn’t sure I had confirmation if it was a boy or a girl, despite being told multiple times that she was indeed a girl (which we had known since March, I was just THAT disoriented). I wanted to see her.
A few minutes later, my husband was able to bring our tiny baby to me and we had our first moments as a family. Our naked daughter lay on my bare chest and started to nurse. Above my waning anesthesia, physical discomfort and the shock of it all… in this moment all I felt was love. Everything was going to be ok.
And it has been.
We were discharged the following Tuesday to be reunited with our home and our dogs and start our life as a new little family; Daniel, me and Penny.